U-G-L-Y, you ain’t got no alibi…
I don’t know why, but I am supremely irritated by an Anonymous post made at Karen’s blog. In regards to the topic, which is a spin-off of Gwyneth’s post about the love shown for Sheikh’s but not black men, Anonymous, after stating her non-issue with fantasizing about black men, completely negates her input to the topic by saying “if I marry a black man, then my sons would also be black men. And they would enter life and live it with all the discrimination and ugliness that go with it, just by being black men.”
Wait a minute, now I know why I’m upset–because my experience as a black woman, and more so, according to this poster, the experience of my brothers, my uncles, my cousins, my grandparents, my friends, is “ugly”. Ugly is defined thusly:
- very unattractive, repulsive.
- displeasing to the eye, or ear, or sensibilities; unsightly.
- not aesthetically pleasing.
- Ugliness is possessed by physical things that are unappealing to the senses, especially visually. It often indicates that something provokes revulsion or horror.
The opposite of ugly is beauty.
From a writer’s perspective, word choice is one of the most important decisions you have to make. One false word can shift the entire meaning of a sentence or image you want to show. While I’m fairly certain the poster didn’t mean it the way it sounded, they further put their foot in their mouth by saying a black man would have to be a brain surgeon for her to be willing to overcome the trouble her family would give she and her half-black family, “so yes, I guess, in a way, reality is also intruding here”, which further implies in the vein of the topic, that the poster can’t read “black” romances because the reality of their own situation (which I take to mean that black men must be brain surgeons or whatever for her to feel they are “acceptable” fantasies in “black” romances)–never mind the fact that it’s a book–would intrude.
The Anonymous poster’s opinion further solidifies the existence of “black tax”–black people must work thrice as hard as non-blacks to be considered “acceptable” by society–even if that black person is from the black elite (you know…Jack & Jill, summers at Oak Bluffs in Martha’s Vineyard, Cotillions, and all that). And even then, you’ll still be “just a nigger” (as seen in Brian Copeland’s wonderful, hilarious book Not A Genuine Black Man), someone whose life experience is destined to be “ugly” compared to the “beautiful” existence of a non-black person.
SMH
5 comments June 14, 2007
Blurb: Louisiana cocktail waitress Sookie Stackhouse has her hands full dealing with every sort of undead and paranormal creature imaginable. And after being betrayed by her longtime vampire love, Sookie must not only deal with a new man in her life-the shapeshifter Quinn-but also contend with the long-planned vampire summit. The summit is a tense situation. The vampire queen of Louisiana is in a precarious position, her power base weakened by hurricane damage to New Orleans. And there are some vamps who would like to finish what nature started. Soon, Sookie must decide what side she’ll stand with. And her choice may mean the difference between survival and all-out catastrophe.
The Georgian era has always fascinated me (after the Edwardian and Restoration periods). Wigs. Seduction. Satin. Men in heels. I just love the dichotomy of a wig, patches and powder on a handsome man. The period is also one of bawdy wit, which I feel Hughes captured very well with the Tete a Tete gossip column she uses to open each chapter.
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